STL3 Monthly Open Munch

COME JOIN US! STL3 hosts an open gathering on the second Saturday of every month from 7PM to 10PM.  It is regularly attended by 50 or more of the friendliest kinky people you will ever meet. This is a great way to meet and make friends with folks already involved in the lifestyle in a safe, public venue. No invitations required. Just show up. To find out the location of the next monthly open munch, or have any questions, send an email to

St Charles Munch

The St Charles Munch, which partners with STL3, is another open social gathering scheduled on the third Tuesday of every month from 7PM to 10PM at a local bar & grill located in St. Charles County, near Harvester. This popular munch is well attended by almost 100 local ‘kinksters’, and they welcome everyone who is new to the BDSM lifestyle.  It is a great opportunity to meet and make new friends, ask questions and find out more about BDSM and the STL3 Group, in a public, safer, no-pressure environment.  For more information, and the address, go to the St Charles Munch Web Site.


The home of Fetish Lifestyle Open Group (a.k.a. F.L.O.G.). For the past fourteen years, FLOG has been dedicated to providing an open, friendly and safe environment to anyone interested in BDSM. Their open social gatherings  are held on the forth Saturday of each month and usually draws a crowd of about 200 like-minded people. Although this is an “open gathering”, an invitation must first be requested through their website at MOFLOG.ORG

Shameless Grounds Coffee Shop

Shameless Grounds has become a very popular gathering spot for the St. Louis lifestyle community. They host a wide variety of weekly and monthly Lifestyle groups and social gatherings, including the Switches’ Symposium, Stl-Littles, and many more. Be sure to check out the latest happenings on their web site. They also have great food and extraordinary coffee.

Metro-Submissive Forum

This discussion group has been meeting on the second Thursday of every month for over ten years, The group provides an opportunity for submissives, both new and experienced, to discuss topics of interest and importance. Meetings are conducted in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental atmosphere with the understanding that an exchange of viewpoints leads to growth and enlightenment. If you are new to the lifestyle and identify as submissive, this monthly get-together is a must. For an invitation, email the group facilitator, Silverpet.

Beat Me in St. Louis

An annual 3-day adult educational seminal and play party held in the Spring

  • BMSL XXI – 21st Annual – March 23rd to March 25th, 2018
  • BMSL XXII – 22nd Annual – April 5th to April 7th, 2019
  • BMSL XXIII – 23rd Annual – March 27th to March 29th, 2020

Beat Me in St. Louis Event Web Site:

Spanksgiving – St. Louis

An annual 3-day adult educational seminal and play party held in the Fall

  • Spanksgiving 2018 – November 16th – 18th, 2018
  • Spanksgiving 2019 – November 22nd – 24th, 2019
  • Spanksgiving 2020 – November 20th – 22nd, 2020

Spanksgiving Event Web Site:


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